Not just nice guys.....

Whoever came up with the saying nice guys finish last, may want to include the female gender as well.



While out for coffee with my gal pals this past weekend, we discussed the life of being single and the availability of guys out there. Not just guys, but good guys.....you know the ones I am talking about. Now, before you guys get all wrapped up in knots we weren't really guy bashing. There are still a few good men left out there. What we have a problem with is actually dating them when you have.....how can I say it nicely......ummm...sluty girls to compete with.



Now, I am a good Christian girl. And so are my girl friends. We all have a pact that despite the mistakes we may have made earlier in life we will be pure on our wedding day. We hold each other accountable. We talk about the dates we go on. What places are appropriate, what outfit keeps you looking nice but doesn't send out the wrong intention, when to come home and when its okay to keep the date going.



We girls like to go out for a night on the town every now and then. Get dressed up, have a nice dinner and share a bottle of wine. Our competition however, likes to "dress up" go to dinner and see how many shots they can do. And these are usually the girls that men are attracted to.



And, before you go off saying then you are looking to the wrong men.....don't even get me started. Some of these are Christian men. Some of these men look to good Christian girls and date them. The ones they can take home to mom at Christmas. Because we don't go out and get trashed. We dress in an appopriate manner. We make a vow to God to wait until our wedding day. We don't use foul language. And were not sticks in the mud. We know how to have a good time, but we do so with limitations. This certainly sounds nice to guys. But they are the same guys that see us as a challenge. Like we are meant to be conquered. On dates they want us to drink with them. When they see a little skin, they think that is an invitation. And no matter how many times you may tell them "no" they still push the issue.



Our question is "why"?

Why is it that guys say all these nice things of the kind of girl they want, but in the end its the opposite that seems to win?

I am not at all complaining. I am actually content at waiting on my Mr. Darcey. I know that the man God has planned for me to marry will come. Its the junk keeping me busy in the mean time that is a little annoying.

And don't go thinking that "ahh, she must have had a bad date this weekend and needs to vent." Thats not it at all.

I just want to know. Why guys say that they want this one thing, and when it is right there before them they either try to change it or toss it aside.

So, in my opinion it's not just the nice guy that finishes last, there's girls out there too. But I don't mind waiting. I'll have my dignity and respect at the end of it :)