40 Days and 40 Nights

I have been single for a year and half now.

If you were to ask my friends how long I have been single, they would look at you with a puzzled face and ask if you were talking about the same person. I usually bounce back from dating someone really quickly. I don't invest much time in a relationship once I see a red flag or I get bored. And I move on to the next guy without a problem. I am sure you are reading this and thinking, "this girl sounds like a major hussy!" No, I am not. If you have read my previous blogs you will know very well that I am waiting until my wedding night. I just have a certain knack for dating a lot. I'm really quite a catch ;)

The problem I have run into, is that when you keep dating without a break between to get your bearings is that you lose what it is that you are out to accomplish in the first place. Let's face it I am no spring chicken. I hope to get married but not anytime soon. Hopefully by the time I am around 35 I will be married and planning on kids.

Bouncing from date to date or month long boyfriend to boyfriend has cuased me to lose the enjoyment in the dating scene. Dating is suppose to be fun and full of butterflies! But when you have dated and dated and dated, it gets old and stale real quick. Most importantly, I have gotten to the point that I am starting to settle for the kind of guy I would normally not settle for. I have gotten to the point that I am so tired of bouncing around that I would rather settle and be semi happy than wait it out and be totally head over heels in love with the one I am suppose to be with.

So, last Friday I decided to give up dating for 40 days and 40 nights! It did happen to fall on Lent and no I am not Catholic. I have made it through my first weekend date free! This is quite an accomplishment for me! This time will allow me to clear my head. I will be able to establish what it is that I am looking for in a mate and what I am not. Having it all laid out before hand, will allow me to weed out those guys I might have settled for in the past. I am really looking forward to this new quest I am on. And I plan to share it with all of you on a weekly basis.


And just a side note. I really get a kick when I tell a guy he will have to wait x amount of days before he can call me because I am on a "Lent" It makes one great conversation starter and certainly keeps them guessing. And if it doesn't, then he isn't the one for me anyway and can keep going on about his business.

This is a good thing. And I hope that more men and women will do it. Clear your head, get grounded and then get back on that dating horse. More to come.....